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Sonntag, 7. Oktober 2012
DIVORCE: It’s All About Being Married
controversy or exaggeration, it is fair to declare that there have been
plenty of oral arguments made and articles written within Christendom
regarding divorce. The commenter’s who claim knowledge and understanding
of divorce range from every spectrum of position within the Christian
The primary theme predominantly
conveyed by these claimants is the well known statement, which is
considered to be the sum of God’s attitude toward divorce – that being
“God hates divorce.”
It is taken from Malachi 2:16 where the prophet speaking in place of God says “he hateth putting away” (KJV).
It means one spouse casting away the other spouse from having a joint
fellowship together, removing all obligations, physical connections, and
provisions the expelled spouse may require or expect.
so much of what they declare were not so disturbing and detrimental to
all Christendom their declarations and counsel would be entertaining.
associated topics correlated to divorce within these discussions have
been varied, i.e. infidelity, mental exhaustion, unhappiness, or can’t
get along, as well as forgiveness, the church’s dealings regarding
ministry in the church by those who have been divorced, or complete
prohibition from divorcing, etc.
the discussion on divorce has been so broad and exhausted, why would I
think that I could add anything to the mix that hasn’t already been
offered? Well, if you have read my book or my other articles on this blog, you will probably correctly assume that what I have to say will not be a regurgitation of these discussions.
only that, I hope to set straight much of the false counseling and
expositions proclaimed by those who base their musings on divorce from
their false and unbiblical concepts of marriage. However, I’ll just say
what I have to say and let you be the judge.
will declare this right out of the gate, ”One can only have a true
understanding of divorce (putting away) when one has a true
understanding of Biblical marriage.”
Listen carefully to what I have to say, which gives greater meaning to my title. Divorce can only occur within a qualified Biblical marriage (to know what I mean by Biblical marriage,
you will need to read either my book or previous articles on this
blog). A Biblically honorable marriage (Hebrews 13:4) must exist first
before divorce can ever be considered an option.
a marriage, which can only occur between a man and woman, is Biblically
unqualified, any idea of divorce is non-existent. It is impossible to
divorce when an illegitimate marriage exists, regardless of the
existence of civil documents, vows, or covenants.
many, many have believed in and exercised false Biblical marital
concepts or secular protocols, whereby, assuming they are or have been
legitimately married before God, when in fact their union is or was
fornicated and unqualified. Under such a fornicated unqualified union
divorce isn’t possible. They are or were deceived in their so-called
divorce as they are or were deceived in their so-called marriage. One
must get marriage right before one can get divorce right in whatever one
advises, exercises, or proclaims.
authorized declaration by Malachi of the Lord saying “he hateth putting
away” is based on a legitimate marriage (sexual intimacy). It is asinine
and foolish to think that the Lord would hate putting away if two that
are joined are defiled (fornicated) to begin with. He would hate the
defiled connection and wouldn’t even consider that any one of the two
could put the other away. Again, putting away can only occur within a
real and legitimate marriage.
us this example of a legitimate marriage and the consequence of divorce
in Matthew 5 & 19, Mark 10, and Luke 16 when stating that whosoever
puts away his wife, if he marries afterward, he and the other woman will be committing adultery, and whoever the put away wife marries, afterward, she and the other man will be committing adultery.
Now notice that Jesus said “marry another”.
Does this mean a vow, a covenant, or a civil document? Is it possible
to commit adultery toward a spouse by these? If I go out and vow or
covenant or acquire a civil document of marriage with three women and
not be sexually intimate with them, will I have committed adultery with
them against my wife? This is why the word “marry” is used in each text. It denotes sexual intimacy and not anything else. This is Biblical marriage when it is right, and adulterous marriage (fornication) when it is wrong.
see this truth in another text, Romans 7:2&3. Notice it says that
if a woman be married to another man while her husband lives, she shall
be called an adulteress. Again, is it the vow, covenant, or document
that the Scripture is referring to? Not at all. I think we all know how
adultery is committed. It is a sexually intimate engagement that is
illegitimate and defiled. Notice that the act of adultery in this text,
like in Jesus’ statements, is considered marriage and not just adultery.
Once the marriage occurs, it is never undone, except for death of one
of the spouses only within a legitimate marriage.
spouses that have had a Biblical marriage and take back your unfaithful
adulterous spouse are taking back a married person. They are not just
married to you anymore. They have “put asunder” your Biblical marriage.
Hence, the reason for Jesus to include in Matthew the exception clause,
where if the putting away is from committing fornication (adultery,
homosexuality, bestiality, incest, polygamy) then all of what he goes on
to say is void and irrelevant.
Putting them away will not be the cause of adultery for either spouse -
the unfaithful spouse is already defiled and has put asunder the
Biblical marriage, setting you free to remarry. They will always be
defiled and married to you, but you will still be undefiled and no
longer married to them.
And as I have
already made very clear in other places, the putting away spouse having
knowledge of their fornication must put them away to keep their self
from being defiled right along with them, because they are
illegitimately connected sexually to someone or something else. To stay
pure for remarriage, they must avoid sexually the unfaithful spouse and
put them away.
It is the law of physical
sexual connections, which are established into creation that must be
respected and administered in the way that God designed it. That way is “…he
which made them at the beginning, made them male and female… and they
twain shall be one flesh…What therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:4-6). Any other way will be in
violation of that natural law and consequential. Repentance, faith, or
forgiveness will not remove the consequence, no matter how much you wish
it. One has to live with it.
all people in the church who are divorced are worthy of ministry. In
fact, many who you think are married are not worthy either. Some who you
consider single are in fact married or have committed adultery or some
other fornication. It’s just through ignorance, and wrong doctrines,
they think otherwise.
You can thank this
ignorance and those wrong doctrines for perpetuating the situation
within the church. The only way it will change is for God’s people to
understand Biblical marriage. Understanding marriage will make
understanding divorce a piece of cake.
God does hate divorce when it involves a true marriage because of what
it will most likely produce – fornication. I, therefore, advise all
Christian counselors, pastors, teachers, and any other instructor within
Christendom to learn true Biblical marriage.
I was going to expound on the Bill of Divorcement, but I will do this in another article.